Parents Talks 12

Tale of a disciplined child

When your child does appropriate behaviour, reward them and if he does the opposite of the desired behaviour, then instead of punishing. Try setting some rules and see a sea-change in his behaviour.

Establish some house rules

If they break them, what will happen? Tell them. Ask them to obey the rules and get a reward in the form of an ice cream trip. Tell them to be disciplined and straightaway gives them natural consequences if they don’t obey.

Establish a routine

Bedtime or morning time routines can be followed. Make a routine for your child to feel safe and secured. Make a routine so that the child can anticipate the day. Some children can’t jump from one activity to another. So, give them some time to adjust. Routine has to be fixed so that there are some security and consistency in the toddler’s behaviour. 

Provide natural consequences to behaviours

It will help him gain your child a sense of the cause of effect relationship and self-responsibility. For example: if he takes a long time to get ready to park, he will receive less time at the park. In the end, the consequence has to be appropriate and children should learn from the mistake. Punish them strictly, but don’t pamper them too much. 

Have realistic expectations

If you set the bar too high, the child will feel undue pressure. If you set the bar too low, the child will be bratty or won’t reach their full potential.

Redirect your child’s attention

If your toddler is getting into something wrong, give them something else to do. And praise them, when he does that. Simply, redirect their attention.

Provide a warning

Use “If…then” statements so that your child knows there will be a consequence. For example, It’s not okay to hit. If you hit, then you get a timeout.

Give timeouts

Because it makes them calm down and provide feedback for their wrong behaviour. This is the correct way to get them in right behaviour. This is a nice trick to discipline your toddler’s behaviour.

Keep explanations short and sweet

Tell them if you hit others, you have to have a consequence. You get a timeout if you hit your friends. Tell them to behave properly alone and in front of others too. Let them maintain a code of conduct and adhere to it. Ask them clearly what they want and if their behaviour is unexpected, don’t go for their desired expectations of you. Then, answer to everything is love and affection, give them that and you can expect normal behaviour. 

Give them small choices to think over

This helps them limit the need to think about and take control of what happens next. For example: give them control of what story to read, which shirt to wear red or pink, which shoes to wear: black or white. Give them small choices as they want to be independent in their choices. 

Suggest the replacement behaviour

If they are not doing something right, you can tell them what they should do instead. You can tell them the right behaviour. For example: if your child is pulling the dog’s fur, you can say -we can pet him like this.

Social skills

They should be reminded that they shouldn’t bite others as it’s dangerous and not good for others. As they are starting to play and interact with children of the same age, this happens.

Self-control

We don’t know what they are trying to say. For example, they are frustrated with a noodle that doesn’t stay at the fork. It’s very difficult for her to control her anger and resist the urge to hit, throw or have a tantrum.

Emotional regulation

Hugging a favourite toy, sipping water or breathing deeply can be the tricks when they can’t manage the emotional tantrums they succumb to. They find and identify it difficult to cope with their feelings.

Empathy

They react inappropriately to other child’s emotions. For example: like laughing when a playmate pinches his hand in the toy chest. They don’t have empathy. They can’t feel the feelings of others and playmates.

Comprehension

Language and attention skills are just beginning in the life of a toddler. Develop eye-contact. You don’t have any idea as to what are they listening to and what are they understanding.

Scolding is necessary but doesn’t pamper them too much. Make him busy in activities. Let him help in household chores.  Don’t speak negative words like any, never and tell them they will have consequences. Disciplining a child is easy. But you have to cooperate. It’s not a day job, you have to work on it by loving and cuddling your child. Tell them they get a

Reward in the form of more time to play, if they clean their room well in time. All above-mentioned points can be applied to discipline your child. Tell them don’t scream. Get them busy in painting and dancing. Be strict with them throughout they do their activity.

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