When a kid is born, he adds a lot of happiness in his parent’s little world. He becomes part of the little world of his parents. He learns, grow up, starts going school, face puberty, finish his graduation and further education, marry and then, there comes a part when that child becomes a parent.
Life of human is really tough. First they see someone going through one phase of life and then, they themselves go through that phase. Being a parent is really tough job. The one who become parent always treat their child like their parents treated them or on the basis of their childhood experiences. In between all these, the parents somewhere forget to make time for them self and suffer parenting stress.
Reasons of Stress
There are lot of reasons which makes stressful environment for parent and they take wrong actions. Parents should avoid taking any negative decision in front them. For example, if you solve any problem by yelling and shouting, it imprints negative impact of parent’s image on kids and kids end up learning these habits from their parents.
There are number of reasons for stress. It can be financial stress, emotional stress, social stress and much more. Parenting through such tough and extreme is really difficult. Different types of stress have different solutions. In any case you don’t have to ignore your children and act mature. You have to be very careful and do not burst your anger on your children. That is the ultimate rule of parenting.
Read this article to know who can you keep things balance and cope up with stressful time while parenting.
1. To where the stress belong
Being as a parent we work really hard for our kids so that they can pursue good education. Casual arguments with co-workers, work load, different shift at office and much more generate a lot of stress. But being as a parent it is our responsibility that this should not affect our children. Never ever burst out your stress at home on your kids. Kids easily get hurt and think about it a lot. We should solve these problems at our office and go home free mind and admire happy faces of our child to avoid any stressful environment. DO NOT BRING STRESS at HOME; this is the basic rule of healthy parenting.
2. Maintain relationships
In this fast forward world don’t forget to keep watering plant of different relationships. Maintain relationship so that whenever you feel like talking someone you don’t run black out. Always keep discussing things with your partner and always tell them how your day was so that you can feel easy and less stressed. This way you can take care of your child even if you had a bad or tough day.
As soon as you return home, don’t start completing your work. Sit and do what make you feel good! Do things which make you feel pampered and spend time with your kids. Feel relax, easy and release your stress. If you like to play sports than join some sports club with your kids this will make them happy and connected to you. Exercise and meditate daily. Watch movies according to your children likings or show them some old albums and tell stories about your childhood. Give yourself enough time after taking care of your children. Take enough sleep so that you can avoid mood swings which occur due to incomplete sleep.
4. Family matters
Always prioritized your family, plan trips, go for movies, plan parties, celebrate little things and share each and everything with your family. Release your stress and feel relax. Listen each and every talk your little one shares with you. Just keep your eyes closed and imagine happy faces of your partner and kids; basic technique to release stress. Spend time with your kids because they matter the most to you rather than any temporary stress.
5. Taking things personally
Indulging in an argument with family members like your kid’s grandparents, uncle or aunt accidentally creates very stressful environment which diverts your mind and you become aggressive. Try not to argue in front of kids because this may have negative effects on them. Kids cannot live in such environment, so you should stop taking things personally. So this trick has two perks: 1) it avoids any irrational argument and do not create stressful environment, 2) your kids learn from you and therefore they will obviously observe your behaviour.
You should increase communication with the parents of kids of similar age group of your kids. This will help a lot in parenting. You all can share some common experiences and can tackle any stressful situation more appropriately.
7. Mind yourself first
First of all, you have to mind yourself in every stressful situation. Children while growing up observe their parents and learn things from them. Therefore, first of all you have to observe your behaviour in any stressful situation. Bursting out your stress on your children can even make them stressed and depressed. So it’s better to take care of your actions in typical stressful reaction.
8. Learn how to balance everything
Being as a parent you should know how to balance between your professional life and personal life. Avoid working on weekends and say no to late night working on weekdays. Extra work creates stress which is then busted on kids and this creates more tensed and stressful environment.
Some Final Words
Parenting is really tough when you have your partner but when you are single parent it become tougher to take care of your child. Single parent’s world starts with their kid and ends up with them. You have no one to share things with; you have to pamper yourself on your own and you have no one as a backup for you. Such situations create a very stressful environment. In this case, you should keep everything very balanced. Regular communication is very necessary with your kid.